We found a great house there that in the tradition of "the big house" even had a secret hiding closet and the master bedroom downstairs. Below is this perfect-house-for-us that we bid on and lost. We loved it, but the St. Joseph burried in my backyard must have had a crack or perhaps I skipped a word or rephrased part of the prayer I said over him as Christopher covered the little hole with dirt. The world may never know. Farwell little house. I hope your new owners love you as much as I would have!
Saturday, May 8, 2010
MY House, Was a Very Very Very Fine House
After finding out that we were not in a position to move to Texas, we set our sites on a quaint shore town in Connecticut. Is a perfect town for us and we would have private beach rights, public schools to utilize, the newly built Katherine Hepburn Theatre ('the Kate' as I would lovingly call it once I became a townie), and so much more.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
The Last Remaining Stay-At-Home
I would like to begin this post by stating my credentials:
1. I am an educated person having done my undergrad work at the Unviversity of North Texas in Theatre and English Lit, with a 3.4 GPA and my graduate work in education at the University of Bridgeport scoring a 4.0 GPA. I have worked as both an intern and a professional and received impressive paychecks in the fields of newspaper advertising and as a social worker for independent senior housing under the government grant for HUD.
2. I am wildly adventurous, having left my home in Dallas to move to New Mexico, Los Angeles and Connecticut with the intent of educating myself further, and from an anthropological standpoint, exploring the way people all over this great country live.
3. Furthermore, I am a FLAMING liberal. A feminist in fact; believing in the need for even more laws guaranteeing equal pay for equal work and so forth. I voted for Obama once and I will gladly do it again.
All that being said, I am a stay-at-home-mother and there are a few questions and comments I would like to respond to that I hear on a regular basis. After four years of silence, I have chosen to take this opportunity to get a few things off my chest (you condescending bitches).
I have to work because I need to be challenged everyday.
To this mom (who really said that to me) I say, being at home all day with your kids is a big challenge, and you know that because on Saturdays and Sundays you are ready to shoot yourself. You know what is LESS of a challenge?? Doing something fun and grown up all day, having people appreciate the good work you do AND getting paid for it. No one appreciates me-not you, my kids, my husband... and even though my kids are having fun being with me, I'm not having a party over here. Lunches with co-workers, errands alone and taking a shit with the door closed are all out for me! I challenge you to try it sometime...not just twice a week.
What do you do all day?
Well bitch, did you ever ask your daycare worker that? No, because you KNOW what that shmuck is doing all day, and it don't seem fun, does it? I know it doesn't because otherwise you would have chosen THAT as your career. What it seems like is a lot of feeding, organizing, cleaning, disposing, scrubbing, re-directing, comforting, and counting to ten and taking a deep breath-ing.
How do you justify staying at home all day?
REALLY BITCH? I gave birth to children I wanted to raise...how do YOU justify YOUR choice? So they can have XBOX and a pool? How do you justify spending such a HUGE chunk of that salary to daycare providers while sitting on your ass surfing the net and gossiping with your co-workers? You forget, I was once like you and I know how much time is wasted at work, by lazy workers which made up most of the work force when I was in the game.
...the America Online / Salary.com survey indicates that employees are wasting about twice as much time as their employers expect. Salary.com calculated that employers spend $759 billion per year on salaries for which real work was expected, but not actually performed.
The biggest distraction for respondents? Personal Internet use. 44.7% of the more than 10,000 people polled cited web surfing as their #1 distraction at work. Socializing with co-workers came in second at 23.4%. Conducting personal business, "spacing out," running errands, and making personal phone calls were the other popular time-wasting activities in the workplace.
Your husband must make a ton of money.
No bitch, it doesn't mean you have money. And incidentally, it doesn't mean you are on welfare. It simply means my house is smaller than yours, we cook all our meals and I buy a lot of store brand stuff. So stop acting like I'm Rockafella.
In closing, bitch, I am going to be diplomatic. And Democratic. And reluctantly admit that I admire and respect a woman who works full time and can keep the home fires burning. She is strong and impressive and rather than splitting the load she is most often doing all the traditionally "female" stuff and adding a 40 hour work week. We ladies have come such a long way in the last fifty years, and I am so proud of what we are capable of. Our choices are plentiful...and I feel complelled to remind you bitches that mine is a choice and not one made out of fear or ignorance. I am not catching a free ride and I certainly do not sit around eating bon bons...although, I do watch Y&R on my Tivo when I fold clothes. But that is beside the point. I like being with my kids all day, even though they are annoying and behave badly anytime we are in public. But don't you feel the same way about your co-workers?
This is the way my mom did it and that's exactly how I always dreamed me and my kids would be. So stop giving me dirty looks when I show up for the class party with homemade cupcakes that me and the girls made. It's just my thing. Its what I'm good at and something I like to do, like how your job is what you like to do...Bitch.
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